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If grief came with a map, I would’ve followed it.
If healing had clear instructions, I would’ve checked every box.
But the truth is… grief is messy.
One day, you’re smiling.
The next, you’re back in tears.
You think you’re “doing better”—then a scent, a song, or a date sends you spiraling.
And that’s not failure.
That’s grief.
🌿 I used to be so hard on myself.
Telling myself I should be “further along.”
Ashamed that I still had days where I couldn’t get out of bed.
But I’ve learned that grief doesn’t move in a straight line.
It loops. It curves. It circles back.
And God?
He’s with me through every twist and turn.
He doesn’t grade us on progress.
He doesn’t give out gold stars for “moving on.”
He walks with us—patiently, lovingly, without pressure—through every stage, every wave, every messy moment.
If you’re grieving and it feels like you’re “going backward,” please hear me:
You’re not failing.
You’re feeling.
And that means your heart still works.
You are still healing—even if it doesn’t look like it.
Let’s give ourselves and others more grace.
If you know someone grieving, don’t rush them. Don’t fix them. Just be there.
And if you’re grieving yourself, take a breath—this is your journey, and it’s unfolding exactly as it needs to.
Share this post with someone who needs to hear that healing is not a race—it’s a relationship with God through the seasons.
